Inviting Senior Parents to Live With You
One of the biggest decisions that many adults need to make once their parents reach a certain age is where their loved one will live when they can no longer take care of themselves. There are some families that will choose to hire a caregiver, while other seniors may prefer to live in a nursing home or assisted living community. However, more families than ever end up inviting their senior loved one to live with them when they are unable to live on their own.
This can be a great way for seniors to stay near family members and loved ones, while staying safe and healthy. However, before you invite a senior parent to live with you, there are a few considerations to keep in mind. Before making arrangements for a senior family member to move in, make sure to ask yourself the following questions.
Can I offer my loved one with the supervision that they need?
While moving a parent into your home may seem like an easy transition at first, it is important to determine whether or not you will be able to provide the supervision that they need. Most seniors move in with a family member because they cannot live on their own. However, if you spend most of the day at work, then you may not realistically be able to provide that senior with the supervision that they need.
Be realistic about your schedule and what you have going on in both your personal and professional life. You may want to make it work having a parent or loved one live with you, but that may ultimately be realistic.
Does my love one need actual care?
There are some seniors who simply need companionship and supervision when they first move in with a loved one. However, there are other seniors that will need actual care. This can include assistance with administering medication, treatment management and help with bathing and grooming. If your loved one does need this type of care, are you able to provide it? Are you able to hire a caregiver for them if you are not?
Can my home accommodate my loved one?
Moving a senior into the home isn’t only a time commitment, it is a space commitment as well. Your loved one will be transitioning from a home where they had plenty of their own space, to living with someone else. They have a reasonable expectation to have a little of their own room in their new house.
Can your home accommodate having another adult living there full time? Would your senior loved one be able to have some space to themselves? If they have mobility challenges, you also need to make sure that they will be able to get around your home with ease, especially if you live in a home with stairs. It can be a lot to get any home senior-friendly, and you need to be realistically able to make changes in your home so that your senior loved one will be safe and comfortable.
If you can’t accommodate your senior in these ways, then you may want to rethink or restructure your approach in inviting them to live with you.
- Lori Thomas has decades of experience as a caregiver. Her writing for SeniorAdvice.com is informed by years of research as well as hands-on family experience caring for her now late mother, who had chronic health issues for most of her life. Lori is an integral part of the SeniorAdvice.com management team, acting as Vice President of Marketing and Chief Editor.
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